Let’s examine an attitude that embraces, I will give with the understanding that it may not be reciprocated, at least not from the person who receives my gift. I believe, inherent in your giving, is a reward. What does that mean? You may be asking, why should this be my first question? Let’s consider how adopting this way of thinking could positively impact others and affect your personal life, career or business. As an entrepreneur, I know when I’ve put my customer’s needs and desires first, instead of profit, it’s always been rewarding. Taking the time to understand how to best serve them, by learning what they like, what are their aspirations and concerns, as well as what they read, and where they go on vacations, equips me to better respond to their needs with a bonus of expanding my knowledge. I experienced a benefit, however, I first focused on serving my customer.
A commitment to embracing, what you can do for others yields positive benefits to both you and others? Dr. Maya Angelou once said, “When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.” The recipient of your gift may never give back to you, however an unexplained kindness, increase, special recognition, or promotion you receive, is the universe paying it forward to you. The act of placing good in the environment or atmosphere will inevitably produce good.
What can you do? With limitless ways to help others, I want to focus on 6 things you can start to do immediately.
- You can give a compliment that’s genuine and thoughtful. This act of kindness will be greatly appreciated. Think about how you feel when you receive an unexpected compliment. The release of oxytocin in your brain creates good emotions. So, when you choose to give freely and generously a compliment with no expectation, both the recipient and you experience “good” feelings.
- You can share your spotlight with others by promoting their work or creativity. Giving a positive review or endorsement can go a long way. Helping a friend or colleague to build credibility by highlighting their gifts, skills, or a project they are working on, is sure to be welcomed and creates a positive vibe.
- You can add value by providing networking opportunities. Whether you are a notable influencer or not, we all have a sphere of influence. Again, there is no expectation from the person you help, however the law of reciprocity is always at work. Your good deeds will not go unrewarded and the networking opportunities you make possible have the potential to expand well beyond those initial connections.
- You can contribute financially. With the exception of contractual agreements, financial contributions given to others without an expectation for repayment, is one of the greatest, selfless acts, To give without expectation, is also, a good practice if you don’t want money to cause undue pressure in personal relationships. Some think business relationships do not belong in this category. Of course, the choice is yours. I have made a commitment to incorporate “what can I do for others, as my first question?” in both my personal life and in business.
- You can listen without judgement. When a person is going through a difficult period, initially they may only want or need an attentive ear. I suggest that you gauge when it’s the best time to render encouragement, show empathy, give advice or just lovingly listen. Recognize that your family member, friend, colleague, or business associate may be looking for their feelings to be validated. Being truly present, observant, understanding and offering guidance when it’s appropriate can serve as a great comfort.
- You can serve as a mentor or advisor. The willingness to share what you have learned, the knowledge that you’ve gained and skills you’ve developed over the years is invaluable. One of our greatest commodities is time and to make this available to help someone accomplish their dreams and goals is always a generous gesture. Committing to counsel and coach someone gives you an opportunity to sharpen your skills, all while helping them. This is a win-win.
There are multiple facets involved when contemplating what you can do for others and why it should be your first question? Even the best advice will not be fruitful, if it’s not appropriately received and applied. The most productive help that I’ve given, is when the person receiving it, is in a posture to accept it. In these instances, the gift, advice, or support that’s freely given to them, is usable and they are able to do something with it that will improve their situation. Help should not be given, just so you can feel good but rather to truly benefit the person receiving it. It means, the receiver has the mindset, ability and understanding to accept your help with a goal to make a positive impact in their life or some else life. From this perspective, your actions are more purposeful and selective in choosing the “others” you help. It’s not just, anybody that happens to appear in your space. While your decision to help can be instinctive, it should be done with care, thoughtfulness and wisdom. Your selflessness will potentially have far-reaching impact. It could also increase the capacity to make a difference in the lives of others. Essentially, you could be empowering someone to do for others, what you just did for them.
I challenge you to make it a daily habit to look for opportunities to help others.
